Finding Your Center: Break the Cycles That are Keeping You Stuck

Therapy for Breaking Generational Patterns and Building Balanced Relationships

  • Practice how to show up for yourself and others

  • Build boundaries that are true to you (inner alignment)

  • Understand your relational patterns with curiosity

  • Create connection without self-sacrifice

In-Person, Glen Head, NY

Telehealth Throughout New York

How I Can Help:

  • Individual Psychotherapy

    Are you exhausted from people-pleasing, anxiety, or feeling lost in relationships where your needs don’t seem to matter? Have you felt misunderstood, neglected, or blamed in past relationships? Alot of us struggle with the same pattern: we give and give until depleted, then feel resentful when others don’t reciprocate. We’re often disconnected from what we actually need, or feel guilty for having needs at all. When pain and suffering become overwhelming, we usually find ways to cope: perfectionism, staying busy, escaping into work or screens, numbing with food or substances. This helps us survive, but keeps us stuck in the same pattern of suffering.

    I specialize in helping you strengthen your relationship with yourself through understanding your history, your relationship patterns, and how you’ve been conditioned, as well as building boundaries, strengthening your identity and developing the confidence to show up authentically in your life.

  • Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Recovery

    It’s not always one catastrophic event that causes trauma; chronic emotional neglect, manipulation, gaslighting, betrayal, or being in relationships where you felt controlled, dismissed, or devalued can leave invisible marks that don’t go away on their own. These relationships (whether with a parent, sibling, partner, or co-worker) are confusing because they often cycle through periods of warmth and connection, making it difficult to gain clarity. You might question your own reality, overextend yourself to keep the peace, struggle to trust your own perceptions, or feel like your needs are unreasonable. Part of recovery is understanding what happened and reclaiming your sense of self, but it’s also learning discernment: how to trust your intuition again, and know which behaviors and traits to look out for (charm=red flag). We’ll gently explore the roots of those patterns and help you to regain trust in yourself again.

  • Divorce & Starting Over

    Divorce brings a deep sense of loss and grief, worries about the future, and feelings of loneliness, but it’s also a chance for relief and a fresh start. Even if you knew it was necessary or it was time to leave, it still hurts. It can deeply shake your identity, your sense of safety and trust in yourself and others. It’s also a unique time to examine the relationship patterns that may have contributed to the end of the relationship, so you can better understand how you show up and what you might want to do differently in the future. Whether you chose the ending or it was chosen for you, it can leave you wondering how to rebuild your confidence, develop your changing identity, and work out co-parenting.

  • Parenting Support

    Does your child’s behavior feel disrespectful, defiant, or out of control? You might be trying everything you can think of to get them to comply, but nothing seems to work. Often what looks like disrespect is actually your child mirroring patterns in the relationship, to show you something important about the relational tone you’re setting. This work requires curiosity about your own patterns: how your childhood experiences are shaping your parenting, where you might be overextending yourself and under receiving, and how to create a genuine connection with your child rather than compliance. We’ll explore what their behavior is revealing about your approach, and help you to create a relationship built on mutual respect, clear boundaries, and genuine connection.

  • Psychedelic Integration

    Psychedelic experiences, whether in a clinic, guided ceremony, or on your own, can reveal in hours what might take years of traditional therapy to uncover. It creates new neural pathways in the brain, and brings buried memories and emotions to the surface in ways that can be transformational, even mystical. You might suddenly understand patterns that have confused you for years, see your relationships with clarity, or reconnect with parts of yourself you’ve lost. But then what?

    Integration is the process of making sense of what you experienced and turning it into lasting change. Without it, even powerful insights fade. Together, we’ll explore what came up and how you can bring it into your daily life, shifting how you show up for yourself, your relationships, and in the world.

Contact



Tara Arutunian, LCSW  516-359-9782